No one understands you and what to do about it

Introduction: How they see you, how they don't

Why it's so hard to understand each other. You are surprisingly hard to understand ; Your observers are cognitive misers (and so are you) ; The two phases of perceiving people

The lenses that shape perception. The trust lens ; The power lens ; The ego lens

Lenses for particular personalities. Eager reward-seekers and vigilant risk-mitigators ; The clingy, anxious perceiver and the aloof, avoidant perceiver

Being seen, and seeing others, more accurately. Correcting bad impressions and overcoming misunderstandings

Conclusion: Becoming a better judge of others

and of yourself.